Confession: I don’t like New Year’s Resolutions. And I tend to be a little cynical about them.
Maybe it’s because it’s just the thing that we all collectively agree to do this time of year, even though so many of us have a very fatalistic view of them judging by the jokes we make about not keeping last year’s or immediately breaking this year’s. But honestly, it’s just because I am deeply, hopelessly bad at keeping them. I am sadly more of a starter than a finisher. My apologies to any of you who love and get into making resolutions and keeping them. In fact, I really love and hope that there are those of you like that out there! Because you inspire me and make me think that maybe, just maybe there’s hope for me too. That change and new starts are possible.
I recently saw a quote, though I don’t know who said it, and it was, “Life isn’t about finding yourself. It’s about creating yourself.” And while I don’t know if that’s the whole truth, I do think there’s something in that. I know that I have spent a lot of time asking that question, “Who am I?” And with that, “What am I supposed to be?” These are obviously fundamental life questions we all ask, and the answers are certainly nuanced and complex, but I’ve been thinking lately that perhaps at least part of the answer lies in the choices we make. Who we decide to be and the actions that we take. Our past mistakes and failures do not have to define us. We can choose, even in small ways, to be the person that we want to be.
So, this year, I am choosing hope over cynicism and am going to resolve to try again. Here are a few of the resolutions — let’s call them goals 😉 — for 2014.
1) Start Blogging! — Hey, look at that! One down already! Thank you and good night! 😉 Ok, just kidding. What that really should say is Start Faithfully Blogging. My goal for this blog is to at least post once a week. I feel like that’s a reasonable goal, and honestly, I’m having a lot of fun doing this already, so I’m feeling pretty optimistic at this point.
2) Be Present In My Relationships — I am an only child, and I think that, along with my personality that can be perfectly ok with being by myself, tends to make me a bit of a loner at times. We also recently had a death in our family, someone we were all very close to, and it made me think again about how the most important things in our lives are the people in it. So my goal is to not get so wrapped up in my life and my head that I miss the joy of the community of family and friends I am blessed with. My desire is to say yes to loving and being with people, even if it’s personally inconvenient. I think this one will be challenging for me in some ways, but I also believe, in the end, people are worth it.
3) Give More — This not only means giving financially to causes and organizations that I love, but also giving more of me. My time. My help. Being open to meeting whatever needs that I can. I would also like to volunteer somehow in my local community at some point this year.
4) Make Better Health Choices — Yes, yes, this had to make it onto the list somewhere, right? 🙂 It’s not so much about reaching a weight goal, though that is part of it, but more that I have just gotten so very lazy in this area. Too much eating out and not enough exercise. So my goal here is just to put a bit more thought into what I’m eating and make smarter, healthier choices this year.
5) Have Fun, Laugh A lot, and Enjoy Life! — Simple enough, right? For me, this one is about being present in the moment, letting go of worries a little more often, and being open to the beauty of the world around me, wherever it may be found.
This is by no means an exhaustive list, but those are the big ones. I would love to hear what your resolutions — or goals — are for this year!
And so, dear readers, I leave you with a quote from one of my favorite artists, Jared Leto:
“Be brave. Fight for what you believe in. Make your dreams your reality.”
Much love to you all! Cheers to a great 2014!